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Everywhere I go, I hear about someone who has just been diagnosed with cancer. My sister, my mother inlaw, the UPS driver, 2 of my friends…What is the deal? Is our environment so full of chemicals that the body simply can’t get rid of them quickly enough? Probably…
If you start reading labels in the supermarket, you’ll find that almost everything you can buy is full of harmful chemicals. Anything from skin care products and shampoos, to cereal, cookies, chips, and so on.

Well, you might think that a few chemicals don’t make that much of a difference. If it did, we would all end up with cancer, wouldn’t we? Not necessarily. When it comes to sickness, it isn’t just about chemicals in our environment, it is also about susceptibility. Basically, if we are not susceptible, we won’t get sick, it is as simple as that. This is why some smokers end up with lung cancer, and others don’t.

So, the question is, what makes us susceptible? Susceptibility to disease actually depends on our mental state. The mental and the physical are both part of form. There is no separation between the two – the physical is actually just a reflection of the mental state.

So, how does the mental state make people susceptible to getting cancer? Very simple! We live in a culture that is very high on expectations that we always have to try to live up to. Whether it is at work, at home, in our relationships or in regards to family expectations, our individual needs are often suppressed and forgotten. Nobody is perfect, but we often wish we were. We don’t like creating confrontations with people we know, and often times, we prefer to suppress our own needs just to keep the peace at any cost. However, this “peace-keeping” process costs a lot more than you think! It can cost you both your health and your life!

Cancer is basically caused by suppression of self – by always stuffing your own needs on the back burner. Eventually, there is so much stuff on there that you are ready to explode. However, at this point, you are so used to keeping “the lid on” that exploding is out of the question. So you keep pretending that everything is alright, and as a result, your cells become so fed up that they rebel and start growing wild, doing their own thing, and basically showing you what you should have been doing for your self all this time.

Scary thought, I know… Somehow, we are all suffering from the delusion that if anyone finds out what we are really thinking, and who we really are, nobody will like us. Strange…

What if we could all be free to be ourselves instead? No more suppressed honesty, no more suppressed creativity, no more holding back… Do you think the world would be a better place? Do you think less people would get sick? I sure do!

So, this is my vision for a better world: A place where people are encouraged to be themselves, and to express their divine selves any way they wish. A place where nobody would criticize anyone for being different. A place where traditional values and expectations would mean less than a person’s individual freedom to express themselves. Are you with me? If so, let’s spread these new ideas before it is too late!!!

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Oh, yeah, it is that time of year again! Time to get out there and look for all kinds of weird and wonderful stuff to surprise people with. Is there anything wrong with that? It is the season of giving, isn’t it?
Yes, it is, but we should still step back and mull over the issue a bit, because it is not as simple as people seem to think.

A friend of mine from Cambodia has a totally different point of view on this. In Cambodia, they never give gifts to young adults. It is considered an insult to give someone a gift because it teaches people to become hypocrites. “How so?” I asked. And she explained how giving gifts and expectation go hand in hand, and that giving gifts creates hypocrites.

Think about it; when you give someone a gift, you naturally expect them to be happy about it and feel grateful towards you, and their happiness makes you, the giver, happy, too. But, what if you give them something that they didn’t like or want? What if they wanted something else, something that you didn’t give? What if they were dissappointed about what you gave? How are they supposed to express that in an honest way, without hurting your feelings?

It isn’t really possible. Imagine your child saying, “Thanks mom, I appreciate the gesture, but I don’t like the gift. Can I please have the receipt so I can exchange it for something more useful?” Hm… Not much Christmas spirit in that comment… But, what if it is the honest truth? Does anyone want to hear the truth?

No, at Christmas, nobody wants to hear that kind of truth – so we all learn to lie… We become lying hypocrites. “Thanks so much, I love it!” we say, and then we stick the gift into the deepest, darkest part of our closets and hope it will disappear into thin air.

This is what we teach our children – don’t be honest – honesty hurts people’s feelings – and after pretending this and that for years to come, we eventually forget how to be real. Why do we do this to our kids? We put them in a very difficult situation – be honest and real, and hurt people’s feelings, or be fake and pretend, and make others happy…

Nobody should HAVE to be fake! How can you know who you are, if everything you do is fake? You smile when you don’t feel like smiling, you say you love something when you don’t, and so on. And, what you learn from this game of pretend is that if you want relationships to be in harmony, you have to be fake. If you are real, not only will you hurt people’s feelings, but nobody will like you, either! So, what does that make your relationships? Perhaps your relationships have become fake, too…

So, I asked my friend what they do in Cambodia to prevent this kind of fakeness, and the solution was so simple – they give money. Nobody is dissappointed about getting money, because when you have money, you can buy yourself whatsoever you want, and then you will be sincerely grateful, and no fakeness is needed to prevent hurt feelings!

Recently, I have experimented with this idea. When my daughter told me “Mom, don’t buy me anything for my birthday! I don’t like surprises, and you don’t know what I like! I want to pick my own things!” I said, “Fine, just go on ebay and put what you like into the shoppingcart, and we’ll look at it together when you are done.”

She found lots of really cool stuff that I wouldn’t have dreamed of buying for her. So, I bought it, and when it arrived, I wrapped it up so she wouldn’t actually see it before her birthday. She looked at the gifts and tried to guess which one that contained what, and she was super excited to open the gifts, knowing that she would get exactly what she wanted. She was truly and honestly happy, and so was I.

It was so simple and easy. No stress, no lack of ideas, no brain racking to try to figure out what to buy for everyone. This is just a different way to deal with the whole issue of gift giving, where we don’t have to force our young ones to become hypocrites and fakes. It also gives the message that it is ok to be real, and that people will still like you, even if you don’t pretend!
Makes sense to me…

This also applies to you – buy your own gifts instead of waiting for others to psychically know what you give you, because then you’ll always get exactly what you want. So, if you want to pamper yourself with Natural Cosmetic Products, my website is a good place to start…

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It is an unfortunate fact that people tend to dump their frustration on others. This is what psychologists call “projection,” and it is the opposite of what the so called “new agers” call “owning your stuff.”

Owning your stuff is something that only happens when people have a somewhat evolved level of consciousness. It means that you can see that your anger or frustration is your own – nobody made you angry – you actually made yourself angry, and therefore, you can’t blame anyone else. The solution is to deal with the anger, instead of dumping it on anyone else.

It takes both awareness and self discipline to “own your stuff.” It is so much easier to scream at someone else and blame them for your misery. Who wants to accept responsibility for being miserable or unhappy? What if someone did something that gives your mind an excuse to scream? What if you think someone deserves some blame?

While blaming others temporarily makes you feel better, it is never a solution. It simply shifts the problem onto someone else, and by shifting the problem, you feel that you are ok, and it is the other person who is full of faults, and not you.

The problem with this kind of attitude is that you will never learn anything from what is happening in your life. The only way to learn is to realize that the problem is actually yours – not anyone elses…

The other problem is that even if YOU “get it,” others may not want to quit their habit of blaming and screaming, and they might selfrighteously continue to blame and scream at you. Then what do you do? Argue back? If you argue, you become just as negative as the people who yelled at you in the first place. So, what is the solution?

There is actually an alternative – you can send the negativity back to the source where it came from, with a dose of creator energy. All you have to say to yourself is, “I don’t accept this, I send it back to the source or sources from whence it came, with creator energy.” This is supposed to be the magic words that will send the negativity back.

Why do we send the negativity back with creator energy? We do this because creator energy has a very high positive vibration that will actually help the person who is suffering from negativity. You can even think of it as “God energy” if you wish.

The reason why you shouldn’t accept anyone else’s negativity is that it can make you sick if you do. It is much better to send it back to where it came from, instead of accepting it and allowing it to affect your body or emotions.

This may sound a bit airy fairy to some, but it does actually work. All you have to do is use your intention to send the negativity back, and almost instantly, you’ll feel it leaving your system.

Try this the next time someone makes you feel sick to your stomach, or horribly sad because they are blaming your for something and making you think that everything is your fault. Just realize that this energy isn’t yours, and simply send it back with creator energy. You’ll find that not only will the negative energy leave you, but the person who sent you the bad vibes will also change as soon as he gets a dose of creator energy from you. Often times, you’ll find that they will spontaneously calm down, or even apologize!

This is very interesting stuff – and don’t take my word for it. Try it and see for yourself! The fact is, there is no reason to carry anyone’s negativity – let them deal with their own stuff and know that it has nothing to do with you! Just keep sending it back…

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Happiness is so easy – just BE and happiness is there! So why is it so difficult to find it? Why are so many people miserable in their lives?
It has to do with expectation. We are not taught that just BEING is enough. We have to have things, money, friends who behave like friends, mates that make us happy, and so on. And, on the other side of expectation, there is disappointment and unhappiness…

All these ideas about what has to happen before we can be happy, has one thing in common – it all has to do with things outside ourselves.

My daughter is a good example. One day, we went to Walmart, and she saw this little teddy bear that she HAD to have. It instantly became the love of her life, and she was crying big tears. If she didn’t get the teddy, she would be eternally miserable, and if she got the teddy, she would be so, so happy! Mom, how can you not say yes? Don’t you want me to be happy??? (And, by the way, if you don’t want me to be happy, I hate you, but if you make me happy, I’ll definitely love you…)

I looked at my daughter and said that I would love for her to be happy, but because I know from my own experience that happiness doesn’t come from outside, I also knew that giving her the teddy would only create a very momentary happiness. She couldn’t care less about my menopausal wisdom, so I decided to buy the teddy for her just to show her what I was talking about.

She was so happy at first, hugging her bear, hugging me, smiling from ear to ear, telling me how wrong I was about the bear not making her happy. And the happiness lasted all the way through Walmart, out the door and into the next store…

In the next store, there was a huge box, right inside the door, with beautiful stuffed animals, and there was a dog in that box that was way cuter than her new teddy. She threw the teddy into the shopping basket and started hugging the little dog. Oh, mom, the teddy wasn’t it, THIS is it!!! Please, oh, please! Can we buy this, and take the bear back to Walmart???? I’ll be so happy if I can only get this little dog! I’ll never ask for anything else! PLEASE!

As her evil mom, I pointed out to her that her happiness of getting the teddy lasted for exactly 14 1/2 minutes, but now that she compared the bear to the dog, all her happiness was gone.

Unfortunately, this isn’t just a problem for small children. We all have this issue going through our lives. If only I had a better job, or a bigger house, or a more beautiful wife, or more money, or a husband who paid more attention to me, THEN I’ll be happy!

The problem with this kind of thinking is that it is never here and now, it is always in the future. There is always and IF and a THEN. If I get this, then… The problem is, that if this is a condition for being happy, then happiness will never happen to you. Why? Because happiness can only be in the now, not in the future. The truth is, the future never happens, it is always now!

So, if you can’t be happy, right here, right now, when can you be happy? There is only one way to be happy in the here and now, and that is by realizing that true happiness has to come from within.

Yes, you can also be happy about things that come into your life, but this happiness is only temporary, it is happiness with an outside cause, which can easily change your happiness to unhappiness.

The secret to true happiness is to find a way to be happy with no cause or reason. And, the path to this kind of happiness is very simple – gratefulness. Instead of looking at all the things we don’t have, or all the things that suck in the world, look at all the things you can be grateful for. The sun, the incredible color of the sky, the food on the table, your friends and family, the miracle of life itself…
There are so many things to be grateful for – so how can you possibly be miserable? You just have to change your focus from your perceived lack to the abundance of life and beauty all around.

Even the fear of death is affected by this kind of shift in perception. If you are miserable, you’ll always be fearful of death because on some level you know that you haven’t really lived your life fully yet. To truly live your life, you have to find your inner happiness first. If you are happy, you feel satisfied, and if you are satisfied, then you can look up at the sky, like the old Indian tribes used to do, and say to yourself “It is a good day to die…” No fear, no misery, just a sense that comes from having found your inner bliss. So, stop looking outside yourself for happiness – you won’t find it there…

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Have you ever heard this expression? Mutton dressed as lamb is an English expression – it means that you are an old sheep trying to pretend that you are a lamb by dressing as a lamb. What has that got to do with you? If you are a menopausal women who is pretending to be a maiden by dressing inappropriately for your age, you are basically mutton dressed as lamb.

I saw an example of this last week when I attended a local party. A lady in her sixties who showed up with her husband, was dressed in a short babydoll minidress and tights, and even though she had the figure to pull it off, it didn’t make her look younger at all, it just made her look stupid.

What we have to remember is that every stage of life has its own beauty and its own purpose. Young maidens dress seductively because they are supposed to seduce a mate and start making babies. So, dressing in a babydoll minidress and tights is just the right thing for them.

The next stage is the mother. Her clothes are less seductive and more comfortable or practical. She knows that she’ll get dirty while taking care of her children, so she wears clothes that are comfortable and can be worn around children.

The third stage is the crone. She is done with creating life for others, and now she is creating life for herself instead. Menopause is about finding your inner goddess, your own style and your own wisdom, and to be a goddess, curves are needed. We aren’t supposed to compete with the young maidens firm and curveless body, we are supposed to celebrate our new found curves as well as the fruits of all our life experiences.

There was a time when elders were honored and respected for their wisdom, but this is no longer happening. Now, only the young women are honored for their beauty, and anyone who can’t compete seems to have totally lost their value.

The problem here is that we have accepted this perception of reality -that youth and beauty are the only things worth having. If we want this to change, WE are the ones who can turn this around. WE are the ones who can refuse to participate – to refuse having laser treatments to erase the signs of time on our faces, to refuse to go on strict diets to regain the body that we once had, to refuse to believe that beauty is only on the outside. What about inner beauty, love, wisdom and understanding? That must have some value, too! If it doesn’t, we must GIVE it value by appreciating ourselves as we are.

Let us be curvy goddesses with lots of life wisdom and interesting faces that show the experience of life etched into our lines. Let us wear loose, flowing goddess clothing that shows off our curves in the right places and hides them in other places. Forget about tights, babydolls and miniskirts and opt for long, flowing dresses and skirts. Deside to be comfortable in what your body has become, and stop trying to compete with the teenagers. You can’t win, no matter how much you try, so why not create your own style instead?

So, get rid of your old, skimpy stuff and give yourself a makover. Find your inner goddess (yes, we all have one), take her shopping, and amaze yourself! What are suitable clothes for a goddess? Babydolls and tights? NOT! More like chiffon dresses and vintage drapey coats, or loose assymmetric tops with ruches and cowl necks, and long flowing skirts. Oh, yeah! Celebrate the joy of being a woman of maturity!!!

Tags: goddesses, menopause

Have you ever wondered why nobody seems to care? It is true, they don’t care, because caring is a higher quality of consciousness. Most people are at the level of the second chakra (energy center), which is all about who has power over whom, and who can get what. It is about taking, having, and getting more and more, it is about quantity, not quality.

Why do you think a book like “Getting the love you want” became so popular? Regardless of what the content of the book is, the title appeals to all the people out there who aren’t GETTING their needs or expectations met. Do you think the book would have been a best seller if the title was “Giving the love you want?” Hardly – Giving isn’t even part of the second chakra perception of reality.

Giving, caring, sharing, and appreciation of beauty and quality, rather than just wanting more and more of everything, is a quality that belongs to the heart, which is the fourth chakra.

So, the next time it bugs you that the people you run into rip you off, lie, cheat and generally do whatever it takes to get what they want from you, just remember that their lack of caring is happening because they haven’t expanded to a loving level of consiousness yet. They are not necessarily trying to be mean – they are just looking out for themselves, because that is all they know how to do.

Too bad, I know, but how do you teach a selfish person how to share, or how to care about others, or even how to truly love? With great difficulty, that’s for sure, since these are qualities that only come through awareness and expansion. All you can do is hope that some day, soon, they’ll actually “get it” and realize that they aren’t very nice or caring to anyone, and hopefully, they’ll even see with clarity that the world can only become a better place if they start living from their hearts.

Life isn’t just about GETTING something out of it. It is about living, giving and learning from it all. It is about caring, gratefulness and love, and it is about finding our lost connection to source again – the one thing that can’t be bought with money, gold or treasures, no matter how much you have to offer. This is your inner treasure – and your life is empty unless you find it…

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Tags: caring, gratefulness, love

Life is full of ups and downs, rights and wrongs. Life doesn’t care about human justice, fairness, integrity or convenience. Life just is, and earth school is where we learn from everything that happens… Or, do we?

Everything in this dimension is based on duality, yes and no, right and wrong, but in the bigger picture of things, none of this actually matters. In the bigger picture, there is no right or wrong, because it depends on how you see things, and what level of consciousness or understanding you are at.

According to enlightened masters, we are here to learn to go beyond this duality to a place where everything becomes one. This is what the sixth chakra is all about. The sixth chakra is an energy center between the eyebrows, also called the third eye. The third eye represents the two becoming one, in other words, going beyond duality.

So, how do we go beyond duality? What is the key? Just watch what happens when someone does something to you that isn’t right – you get angry, you defend yourself, you want to get even, you want to convince them that you are right and they are wrong, you resist…

But, how can you go beyond duality if you pick sides? Picking a side, any side, right or wrong, still keeps you stuck in duality. How to get unstuck? Stop resisting…

Whenever you resist, you are fighting against the whole universe. Whenever you resist, you are not in the flow of life. Whenever you resist, you are stuck in a tiny box, separate from the natural flow of things.

But, resisting is so tempting!!! Yes, and so addictive. Your ego loves a challenge, and the more you resist, the more you feed your ego.

So, what happens if you just surrender and go with the flow of things, regardless of right or wrong? There is only one way to find out – stop resisting…

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Spring can mean new beginnings, too, but to me, fall has always been the best time for new beginnings. I grew up in Norway where the sun shines most of the time in the summer. It comes up about 1 o’clock in the morning, and goes down about 11:30 at night, so it never really gets dark in the summer time. Then fall comes, and the days get shorter and shorter, until there is only about 4 hours of daylight in the darkest part of winter. By then it is pitch black in the morning, and just as pitch black in the afternoon and evening.
So, where are you going to go in the blackness? It isn’t exactly tempting to go anywhere, so you end up staying at home as much as possible. And if you are sitting at home, there are only two possibilities – either try to get a whole lot of entertainment, or be super creative. I chose the second option.

Therefore, fall was always the beginning of creativity for me. As soon as the days were getting shorter, I would go to the craft stores and yarn stores, looking for ideas and inspiration for my next winter projects. It was really exciting, and I often surprised myself by taking on different types of projects that I had never done before – anything from crocheting a skirt, to making a farmhouse and a doll’s bed out of wooden clothes pins. So many cool things to make…

Now, I have reached the fall of my own life – menopause… And again, I can feel the excitement of new beginnings coming! I am no longer a teenager who is obsessed about trying to find a mate, I am done with babies and diaper changes, my kids are big enough that they can clean up their rooms and feed themselves out of the fridge. So, finally, I have time to be creative full time! Yeah!!!

For me, menopause is an opportunity to express yourself creatively. It is a time to find yourself, and to discover your inner goddess. It is a time to allow inspiration to fill your heart and to share this overflowing expression with the world.

So, enjoy the fall with all its beauty, and let it inspire you to see that it is full of new beginnings and infinite possibilities. And, don’t postpone. Life is always here and now…

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Tags: Fall, new beginnings

Every once in a while, I come across articles that are exceptionally good, that simply have to be shared with the rest of you. The article I am referring to, sparked many memories of my past as well. I remember when I was in my late teens, and trying my best to fit in and be exactly like everyone else. The problem was, I wasn’t very good at fitting in. By nature, I am a very rebellious spirit with unusual opinions about everything, and trying to suppress this part of myself to make myself more palatable to others, didn’t make me happy.

I don’t know what happened, maybe it was just some kind of bad morning, but one day, I woke up refusing to play this stupid game anymore. I made a commitment to myself to just be myself and to stop pretending.

What happened next was a real shock. As soon as I stopped pretending to be someone else, I basically lost all my friends! I was in a real pickle – I couldn’t go back to pretending again, since I had already revealed my true self, and if nobody liked me for being authentic, then what???

I really had to do some soul searching to find the answers! Being fake, and having so called “friends,” versus being authentic with no friends. After mulling over the issue, I decided it was better to be authentic and true to myself, even if I had to then be friendless. What are “friends” anyway, if they can’t accept the real you?

So, I let go of the idea of having to compromise my true being just to get friends, and surprise, surprise, new friends started coming into my life, and these were totally different types of friends. These people were real, and appreciated the real me. What a relief! There are actually people out there who are real, but you are not going to attract these people into your life until YOU become real, since like attracts like.

So, here is a link to this awesome article about living an authentic life. CLICK HERE to read it, it is well worth your time…

Tags: authentic, Life