Fabulously Cheeky

Today, I did a really dum thing. I started looking at pictures of women before and after plastic surgery. I was going to write a post about the stupidity of plastic surgery, and put in some pictures, but before I could even finish looking at them, I felt so sick to my stomach that I had to close the page (so no pictures in this post). I can’t even imagine how people dare to have plastic surgery done, when looking at those kinds of before and after pictures! It is sad and horrible to see what has happened to those poor, desperate women.

The question is, why do women allow this to happen to themselves? Is it fear of getting old? Fear of losing their husbands? Fear of losing their jobs? What husband worth having would leave you just because he saw a younger woman with less wrinkles on her face? If your husband is that shallow, it is better to simply let him go! Have we really become so shallow that we can’t see past the wrinkles to the person within? Does who you are no longer matter?

It is time that we stand up to all the nonsense and refuse to participate any more. We must take back our power as women and embrace all the stages of our lives, not just the stage of the maiden! We must stop the madness, and refuse to live up to an ideal of perfection that is not realistic at all. We must trust in our inner beauty and start honoring ourselves and each other. We must say NO to any more surgical abuse of women!
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The fashion makers have spoken again, this spring we are supposed to wear bright green, blues, metallics, animal prints and neutrals. Very tempting, I must admit, but here is where we have to enforce some self-discipline! First of all, we have to know which color category we belong to, and also what kinds of clothes that look good on our particular body shape. (If you don’t know what color category you belong to, CLICK HERE to learn more about my new system for determining what colors to wear.)

Can you wear a tubedress with tiger stripes with your coloring and figure, or not? If the honest answer is NOT, then look for a dress that is more flattering for your body type, or a dress that fits your coloring better.

Knowing what colors that look good on you gives you a great advantage: If you want something blue, you will know if you have to look for clothing in pastel blue, medium muted blue, dark muted blue or bright. If you look best in pastels, just stay away from brights and muted. If you don’t, you’ll end up with something that not only looks unflattering on, but it will end up in the back of your closet where all the other odds and ends live.

Do you know why you have nothing to wear? It is either because nothing fits together (different color categories), or it is the wrong shape for your body type, or even the wrong color for that part of the body.

So, before you run off shopping, go through your closets. Eliminate first all the colors that you can’t or shouldn’t wear. If there is anything left in your closet by the time you have eliminated the wrong colors, try on the rest of the stuff. Is it long enough? Does it fit right? Is it tight enough in the right places? Do you have the right kinds of skirts and pants for your type of figure? Do your tops have flattering necklines? Get rid of everything that doesn’t work. Then, take out a pad and pen and write a list of what you need (and tick off the things you already have).

Wardrobe necessities
1) A couple of flattering skirts and pants in neutral colors that will match everything else in your closet. Good neutral colors are black, white, camel/tan, brown, olive, khaki, cream, gray and navy. Just keep in mind whether your figure requires dark or light colors on the bottom. (Yes, all wardrobes need some neutral colors just to tie things together.)

2) Tops should definitely be within your best color category, since the color is close to your face. Buy tops that match the neutral colors of your skirts and pants.

3) Jackets also have to be flattering colors. They should also match your pants and skirts, and make sure they are the right length and shape for your figure.

4) Accessories are an expression of who you are, dramatic, romantic, classic, casual, innovative, sensual, so keep that in mind…

5) Good underwear – yes, it matters. It makes your clothes fit nicer.

6) New makeup for spring, have fun!!!

If you buy a few good base items that match everything that you have in your drawers, you can have an almost unlimited amount of outfits to choose from, even with a fairly small sized wardrobe. This is the most economical way to shop.
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To all you girls out there who would love to create your own blog, but don’t know how, I am currently writing a book for you! Right now, I am working on the final chapters, so it will probably be released within the next month or so, I hope! (I am actually waiting for the next version of WordPress to be released first, so I can update the book a final time before releasing it.)

Why am I writing this? Because there is no such thing out there! When I created this blog, I didn’t have a clue what to do. I have no interest in computer technology, even though I have the kind of head that can understand it if I have to. But, basically, I just wanted a nice, functional blog, without having to study computers in the process. The problem was, I couldn’t find any simple tutorials for the latest version of WordPress. There are tutorial books out there, written for technically minded people, but most of them are already outdated, and they often leave out all the essentials that they think you already know. That was no good to me, and out of frustration, I searched the forums for information, but all I found was lots of questions, and almost no useful answers in simple English.

So, I spent a lot of time, researching exactly how to do things, and I wrote down absolutely everything I did. So this book was the outcome of all my efforts. It is basically a step by step tutorial which explains EXACTLY what to do in simple English, and it leaves nothing out! I explain what, why and how, and I have included lots of screen shots to make it really simple.

With this book, anyone can create a blog, even if they don’t know hardly anything about computers, and with no brain-burn! So, if you have been dreaming about creating your own blog, but feel a bit intimidated because you don’t know how, this book will tell you everything you need to know to get started.

If you are interested in buying the book, use the contact form tab from the top of the page to send me a private email, and I’ll let you know when the book is released and where you can buy it. I’ll even give you a $5.00 rebate if you buy it within the first 10 days after the release. In addition, I also need to know if there are anyone out there who would be willing to review the book. At this point, I would really appreciate some reviews (just send me a word).

So, keep checking my blog for updates, and I’ll let you know as soon as the book is released.

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So far, the beauty we are most concerned with, is the outer beauty, beauty that is no more than skin deep, even though real beauty supposedly comes from within. Unfortunately, what most of us feel is that it is criticizm that comes from within, not beauty. There is always this little voice telling you that you have gotten another sunspot, or 3 more wrinkles around your eyes. Better stop smiling, or you’ll be getting more wrinkles by the minute!!!

What madness! What beauty can be there, if you can’t even smile? Who is this inner judge of lack of perfection, always telling you how you don’t measure up? How can you possibly feel beautiful when you carry around an inner voice that always tells you how ugly you are?

The culprit is called the mind. Mind is another name for madness. Mind is never happy with anything. Watch it, and you’ll see. Mind judges, criticizes, dissects, cuts apart, and when it has destroyed everything, it becomes unhappy, dissatisfied, miserable, looking outside for some kind of fulfillment. If you can’t be perfect, maybe botox is the answer? You are so ugly, you just need a new face! That’s it!!! A new face will make you happy! NOT….

Ekhart Tolle says that mind is completely incapable of seeing or creating beauty, and that true beauty can only be created from a space beyond mind. Mind also makes it impossible to love. How can you love yourself, or anybody else for that matter, when mind is always in the way, nagging, judging and criticising?

The only way to experience beauty and love is by going to a place that is beyond mind. Go inside, become silent, listen to the wind and the birds, feel the sun or the rain on your face and let the silence of nature go deep into you. Do you feel beautiful when you close your eyes? When you don’t wear makeup and don’t have anyone to compare yourself with? Can you feel the beauty of existence flowing through your form? Beauty is so much more than physical form! Too bad we are so attached to the physical, when the physical is only temporary.

The other day, I was rushing through the supermarket with a shopping list in my hand. As I walked passed the flower section, there was a huge section of just easter lillies. I caught a whiff of their scent as I rushed by, and it stopped me dead in my tracks. I forgot both the shopping and the list, and had to go back just to smell them. As their fragrance filled me with gratefulness for their generosity, I realized what incredible beauty there is everywhere we look!

The flowers didn’t care if anyone bent down to smell them – they were still pouring their fragrance out, sharing with anyone who had enough awareness to notice it! It totally blew my mind! This is real beauty! Beauty beyond mind! I’m grateful to the easter lillies for teaching me another lesson of truth! We still have so much to learn…
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For anyone who wants a makeover, but needs a little help along the way, I have decided to offer personal color consultations based on my new numeric system. (If you want to learn more about my new numeric system, CLICK HERE .)The price is very reasonable, only $25.00.

What you’ll get: When you sign up for your consultation, I’ll give you an email address where you can send me a brief email with questions or concerns, as well as a color picture of your face, and I’ll tell you what color category you belong to, what your options are, and whether you need to wear muted, brights or pastels in your makeup and clothing. Once you know this, you can easily create your own clothing style and pick the most flattering clothing and makeup colors without hesitation!

To sign up for a consultation, just click the button below. There will also be a button under each post.

Personal Color Consultation, $25.00

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I always love watching people and learning from what I see. Yesterday, I went shopping in Walmart, and I saw a lady that looked so dull, it almost blew my mind. Her hair was blond with ashy highlights, her eyebrows were light, her makeup very nude and her clothing color coordinated, but muted. She obviously cared a lot about her looks, since she had highlights in her hair and was wearing makeup and color coordinated clothes, but for some reason, it didn’t work at all. To put it nicely, her beauty was definitely not enhanced. The interesting thing is WHY? Why didn’t it work?

So, I added up her numbers to see which category she belonged to. (If you don’t know what I’m talking about, CLICK HERE to learn more about my new system for determining what colors to wear.) I gave her a 4 for the hair, 2 for the eyebrows and 2 for the skin, a total of 8 – PASTEL CATEGORY!

Just what I suspected! This was a lady in the pastel category wearing dull, muted colors. Personally, I love muted colors, but you should only wear them if it suits your coloring. On everybody else, they look too dull!

Since this lady is at the upper end of the pastel category, she actually has two choices. If she wants to wear pastel colors, she can lighten her hair color to a 3 and darken her eyebrows, also to a 3. It still adds up to an 8, but by lightening the hair and darkening they eyebrows, there will be more contrast in her coloring, and and she would look fabulous in pastels.

If she prefers muted colors, she would be better off going back to her original hair color (darken to a 4). If she stopped the highlights, and darkened her eyebrows at least 2 shades (also to a 4), she would be able to wear all her muted clothes without looking dull at all. But, she would also have to change her blush and lipstick! No more pastel nude lips – In the muted category the lipstick should be a medium colored muted mauve or brownish neutral, very close to her natural lip color.

This is a good example of what happens when your clothing belongs to one category, and your makeup and coloring belongs to another. The result is always unflattering. Unfortunately, this is something we all do. Perhaps it is because my system for determining what colors to wear is completely brand new? However, the system really works, and it works for everything – hair color, brow color, choice of lipstic, blush and clothing because everything has to work together.

So, this is the most important thing when it comes to creating your own clothing style and determining the right colors to wear: Make sure that your coloring, makeup and clothing are all from within the same color category! If it is, you’ll look fantastic – if it isn’t, your style is seriously suffering!
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You may wonder if it really matters if you know what your clothing style is. It matters for one reason – it is an expression of who you are as an individual, and this expression affects your relationships in many ways. For example, if you dress in a style that is not essentially a reflection of you, you won’t attract people on the same wavelength, people who can actually understand or appreciate who you really are.

I heard a story about Marilyn Monroe which makes sense to me. Because she dressed in a very sensual and alluring way, she attracted tons of men who simply couldn’t resist her beauty and sexiness. However, this wasn’t really an expression of who she was. By heart, she was supposedly deeply romantic and vulnerable, and she needed a man who could honor this quality in her and love and protect her. Instead, she attracted men who were only interested in sex. They didn’t have a clue what she really needed because she projected a totally different “self” to the world. The result was great confusion and unhappiness.

I also heard another story about two girlfriends who were invited to the same party, one was an alluring type, the other was a romantic. The alluring type convinced the romantic friend to wear one of her sexy dresses, and the whole evening, she attracted men that came on way too strong, and that actually scared her.

Or, imagine a dramatic type dressing as a romantic. She’ll attract some sweet, oldfashioned knightly type who will be shocked into his boots when her dramatic side shows itself. This isn’t at all what he bargained for, and he might even resent her for being so dramatic.

In all relationships, there are huge amounts of non-verbal communication between people. When you see someone for the first time, it is not just the way he looks or talks that matters. We basically pick up clues from everything, like the way he dresses, whether his clothes are clean, how big his muscles are, how he smells, if he has any odd habits or ticks, what the energy of his eyes are like, and so on. So if you want anyone to get an impression of who you are as an individual, you must find your own clothing style and dress in a way that reflects the real you. Once you do, you’ll attract a lot more likeminded people into your life. So, forget about fashion. You are better off finding your own unique style.
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I have always found the issue of clothing style difficult. You may know what your horizontal and vertical figure is, and what color category you belong to, but the kind of clothing you wear also have to have a certain style. Why? Because your individual style is a direct expression of who you are as a person.

I used to think that I am a little bit of this and a little bit of that, and that style is whatever you like to wear. But that is not so. For example, I love long flowing skirts and flouncy fairy tops. Very romantic. I can argue until the cows come home how romantic I am at heart, and how I love to be in love, but this kind of clothing is doomed to be worn once or twice, and then it gets stuffed into the deepest part of my closet, and stays there for an indefinite time. The truth is, I am dramatic in every way. How else could I pick a name like “fabulously cheeky” for my blog? So forget romantic – it makes me look like I dressed up for halloween.

Not only do these kinds of clothes look dum on me, but my husband keeps saying “Those things look awful on you, they just aren’t you!”
Or, like my little boy said, once someone gave me a beautiful flowing dress with little flowers on it – “You look like an old hag, mom!” Nothing can be more clear than when a child speaks!!! Thank you for that insight!

Again, the question was why? Why does my daughter look absolutely lovely and fairy like in flowery dresses, when I look like a hag? Obviously, we have different styles, but what is style, and how do I figure out what my style is?

Again, I found a super simple way to penetrate this incredibly essential mystery that every woman needs an answer to – and the answer will be revealed in one very simple question: If you were invited to a great big semi formal party this weekend with lots of people that you don’t know, what would you wear?

Would you wear a beautiful buttoned up silk blouse and a long, simple velvet skirt? Would your makeup consist of mascara and lipstick and nothing else? If so, you are a casual type. Simple, no frills, girl next door look. Just wants a normal guy who works for a living.

Would you wear a beautiful flowing dress with lace and flowers and a choker around your neck? Would your makeup be soft and delicate pinks and peaches in your lipstick and blush, with soft colored eyeshadow and long dark lashes? Would your hair be soft and wavy, or have long curly tendrils hanging down? If so, you are a romantic type. Think soft, feminine, innocent and vulnerable. In need of a man who can sweep you off your feet and take care of her.

Or, would you wear something sensual or alluring? A soft sensual cashmere dress that shows off your every curve? A beautiful velvet dress with long splits up the sides and cowl neckline that shows off too much cleavage (and wear no underwear)? Would your hair be wild and tousled, like you just woke up? Would you wear 5 coats of mascara, and glossy, tempting lips? Would you wear a Marilyn Monroe dress and spiked heels? If so, you are a sensual type. Think sexy, soft, sensual, cleavage and curves, dangerous to men…

Or would you wear a black mini dress, a furry vest from a second hand store, combat boots and striped leggings, spiked asymmetric hair and purple and green eye shadow? If so, you are an innovative type. Think second hand stores, eclectic mixes, asymmetric, untraditional. Needs an open minded guy with no fixed ideas.

Or, would you wear a black, one of a kind pant suit with 5 eye catching necklaces around your neck, 3″ long ear rings, and dramatic makeup. Or perhaps, a long straight dress with high splits up the sides and big, bold blocks of color, paired with long black pants and bare feet? And perhaps some boa feathers around your neck, and very dramatic eye makeup? If so, you are a dramatic type! Think simple, clean lines, bold colors, no frills! Needs someone in her life who can appreciate some drama!

Or, how about a classic pantsuit with a simple strand of beads over a simple silk blouse. Your hair is pulled back, your makeup is simple, but elegant. Your clothes are expensive, but timeless. Very proper. You are a classic type. Needs a guy with good taste and lots of money.

Now, which one is you? Honestly? Once you know, you can start going through your closets again!
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