A couple of years ago, I spent 1 1/2 years living on raw food, but my husband lost too much weight without cooked food, and my children didn’t like it either. Anyway, the first 6 months on raw food I didn’t even lose an ounce! Then the weight slowly started coming off, but now that we are back on cooked food, there is no way I will ever see my belly flat again. Now I’ve got belly, hips and boobs, and I’m tired of fighting the weight increase. It seems that my body weight is naturally settling somewhere about 10 pounds more than I used to be, and it doesn’t matter if I skip both breakfast and lunch, I’m not losing any weight no matter what!

So, maybe menopause is about becoming a goddess, with a goddess body! Nice and round and curvy. The only thing is, with a curvy body, we have to dress in a different way than we used to. Go through your closets and just throw away any kind of skin tight, skimpy stuff. Now, we need clothes that can show off curves, like tailored jackets or drapey jackets, pencil skirts, long skirts and pants with wide legs and longer tops with scarfs and necklaces. Forget about mini skirts, they just look silly on menopausal goddesses. Think “goddess” and you’ll empower yourself! Appreciate your curves, and dress in a flattering way. Don’t try to hide them in baggy clothing.

Life has many stages, and when you hit menopause, it is time to become a goddess! You have given birth to your children and taken care of them until they could take care of themselves. Now, the time has come for us to give birth to ourselves! It is time to find out why we are here, and what our potentials are, and to let our creativity flow!

Because of a loophole in the labeling law, fragrance is exempt from disclosing what is in the scent they are using because it is considered a trade secret. The problem with this is that some of these synthetic fragrances can disrupt the hormone balance, cause birth defects and enter breast milk. The environmental working group EWG recently released a study where they found 232 chemical contaminants in the umbilical cord blood from 10 American babies!

If we don’t use safe cosmetics and natural fragrances, such as essential oils, we can put both ourselves and our children’s health at risk. Is it worth it? No way…

So, think about it – before you send your mate of choice out to buy you something wild and wonderful that you don’t really need for Christmas, think twice. Is it going to be good for you? Is it going to keep you healthy? Without health, life is not much fun! And, if you are in menopause, your hormones can still be affected.

I have always wondered why women get all those hot flashes. Is it the food we eat? The creams we use? The fragrances? All of the above? It could be anything! If the hormones are affected by even the smallest amount of fragrance, such as synthetic musk, why wouldn’t it affect our hot flashes in menopause? The hormone balance is very delicate, and even the slightest imbalance can affect us deeply.

So, it is a fact – my favorite white (synthetic) musk must go, and patchouli, amber, cedar and sandalwood will take its place. This is a very small sacrifice to stay healthy…

Tan, which is a slightly darker color than beige, simply adds up to 8, which means lack of power. So, if you are lacking in power, wear tan, and you’ll find your lost power again. 8 can also mean money, so tan is a good color for making money.

Brown has quite a different vibration than beige and tan. Numerologically, it adds up to 27/9. 9 has to do with suppressed emotions, 2 has to do with lack of communication, and 7 is fear of abandonment. So, when you are afraid that your relationship is going down hill fast, and you can’t say anything about how you are feeling for fear that your mate will get up and leave, brown is the color to wear. Brown will help you communicate your feelings and dampen the fear of being abandoned, and this is a good thing, because we always attract into our lives whatever we fear the most.

I have heard that brown is also considered a color that has a sense of familiarity associated with it – this is the same feeling you find in established relationships. It is therefore no wonder that a lot of menopausal women change from wearing black (the color of idealism) to brown (the color of frustrating, disappointing or somewhat shaky relationships). Menopause is a huge transition where unwanted wrinkles, sags and bags show up, extra pounds are harder and harder to get rid of, and let’s face it, we don’t feel as attractive as we used to. So, what is going to happen? Will our mate look for someone younger? He might, but then again, he might not. Perhaps he appreciates your inner qualities and isn’t obsessed with how many lines you have around your eyes. Or, maybe you just don’t know what is going to happen. So, when you find yourself facing the unknown while going through great transitions, the color brown will help you overcome the scary feelings of not knowing where you life is going next.
Tomorrow, I’ll talk about grey, multi colored and burgundy.
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The women who choose not to have children often become creative in other areas instead, at work, in their homes, in their gardens, and so on.

When menopause comes, it is often a huge transition in many women’s lives. The children no longer need us, we transition from fertile women to infertile crones, the hormones affect our moods, our skins, and possibly even our relationships, and we may enter menopause with a mixture of fear, resistance and denial. What if we could change time? What if we could reverse the whole aging process? We don’t like the feeling of being left behind in the dust, and we desperately look to the beauty industry for answers. We need something that can give us hope…

But, actually, hope is never going to give us what we want. Hope is always in the future, never here and now. So, what IS actually here and now? An opportunity! A new beginning! A second wind!!!

Just think about it! We have just finished taking care of our children! We are free to explore other dimensions of life! We are free to express ourselves through our own creativity! We are no longer needed for diaper changes and nosebleeds. What that means is that all that energy is freed up and can go somewhere else!

So, where can it go? Pottery classes? Painting? Jewelry making? Cooking? Horseback riding? Hiking? Gardening? Knitting? Creating your own blog??? I can go on and on – you can even learn to meditate and give birth to yourself this time, if you wish. Finally, you are allowed to be selfish enough to pursue your own interests, so actually, we are all very lucky!

Here, I am reminded of the Chinese sign for crisis. It consists of two symbols – danger and opportunity. This is something that should be remembered when menopause is experienced as a crisis – we can choose to focus on the scary, unknown part of the transition, or we can focus on the opportunity part! If we focus on the opportunities instead, life can take on a whole new level of excitement! What about going back to school? What about starting up a small business? Anything is possible…

So, don’t be blue – be YOU, whatever that means…

And if you need some inspiration to get you into the right mood, check out this youtube video – it is one of my favorites:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_xQN6s_COw
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A friend of mine, who hit menopause a few years ago, told me that menopause isn’t just the beginning of the end – it is a new stage in your life! A new beginning! We are done giving life to our children, and now, it is the time to start giving life to ourselves, in other words, time for spiritual growth. Time to meditate, time to figure out why we are here, time to follow our dreams and do what we have always wanted.

Many years ago, when I was in my mid twenties, I had a dear friend who made a huge impression on me. She was in her seventies at the time, and she was so beautiful and alive and young inside that it was almost impossible to tell her age. Her life force was so strong that it gave her an almost timeless quality. One day, her boyfriend was coming to visit, and she was as excited as a young girl! How could anyone even consider her old? The truth is, she wasn’t! She was “young at heart,” she was a beautiful soul, and no wrinkles could hide the truth! She was beautiful because she had inner beauty which radiated from her being.

She liked to think of herself as my “fairy Godmother,” and in many ways, she was. She was one of those rare women that it was an honor to know, and whom I’ll never forget.

So, if I can stay as young inside as my 70 year old girl friend did, no matter how old I get in years, I’ll be happy. Who cares about a few lines here and there? Life is not just skin deep…
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