Christmas curves

By mati | Filed in Fashion Tips
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Don’t you love Christmas? Staying up too late, watching movies too much, eating and drinking too much, hanging out with friends – it is like living in neverland where there is no tomorrow! However, this kind of gluttony does take its toll, especially on your waistline! So, when deciding what to wear, keep your increasing curves in mind.

Increasing curves doesn’t mean boxy, unshapely clothing – that will only make you look boxy and unshapely. No, it is better to enhance the curves you have got. If you don’t have a small waist line, chances are that the area under your bust still has some definition (at least if you use a good, supportive bra). If that is the case, empire waist and babydoll styles in the right colors can be very flattering. This style accentuates your smallest part and also shows off curvy breasts without drawing attention to a curvy waist as well.

Another style that is excellent at hiding a few bulges is ruched tops, especially if the ruching is on a diagonal, or if it goes across the belly.
Also, think longer tunic tops, very soft, loose sweaters that drape without clinging, and check out chicos and travelknits on ebay. These two companies make clothing out of material that doesn’t cling or wrinkle, and this type of clothing can easily hide a few extra pounds caused by Christmas indulgence in too many goodies.

Also, make sure the fabrics are correct for winter. Think Merino wool, silk and cashmere, velvet and velour. Stay warm, eat, drink and be merry. Celebrate the return of the sun, and whatever else you feel like celebrating. Happy holidays!

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How can you tell what your skin tone is? First, look in the mirror. Do you have naturally rosy cheeks? If so, your skin tone is pink based. Yellow or blue undertone is harder to tell. If the veins on your arm are green, you have yellow undertone. If they are blue, you have blue undertone. If you can’t tell if they are green or blue, just look in your closet to see what colors you gravitate towards. If you have mostly cool colors, you are most likely cool, and if you have mostly warm colors, you are most likely warm.

For some reason, we usually gravitate towards the same types of clothing colors as our skin tone. While this often creates a harmonious look, it does nothing to balance out the underlying skin tone. In the summer, when we have a little bit of a fresh skin color, it doesn’t really matter, but in the winter when the skin turns scary pale, and the sunlight against the snow is extremely harsh, we may need to balance out the underlying skin tone a bit.

Foundation is the easiest bit. It should have the same undertone as your skin – so warm to neutral foundation for warm skin, and cool to neutral for cool skin or pink skin. This is because foundation is only meant to even out your skin tone, and not to give you more color. Extra color should be added with blush and lipstick. But, how do your choose the right color?

If you pick a lipstick or liptint with the same undertone as your skin tone, it will look ok, but it won’t “boost” your skintone or balance your undertone. To do that, we have to use the color wheel and pick a color on the opposite side of the wheel. I’ll give you some examples.

One of my friends has very cool coloring. She has pale skin, almost white hair and loves to wear navy blue and icy pink lipstick with frosting. While this looks quite lovely, it magnifies her coolness and makes her look a bit like the snow queen. If we look at the other side of the color wheel, the opposite of blue is orange. What this means is that if you add a little bit of color with orange undertone, it will balance cool skin nicely. One day, I got her to try some peachy pink liptint instead of her icy cool pink, and it warmed up her whole face and gave her a very healthy glow. So, it doesn’t take much to make a difference.

Another cool colored friend of mine with golden blonde hair, loves to wear baby blue clothes, and a bright bluish red lipstick. This makes her look very cold and rigid, since the bluish red lipstick narrows her lips because the color is quite dark. A much better lip color for her would have been a more muted brick red, which would balance the blueness of her skin. I also saw her wearing an orange fleece one day, that someone had given her as a gift, and she looked gorgeous. She could also warm up her hair color with a slight tint of strawberry blonde, and it would really warm up her skin.

Personally, I have yellow based skin that looks very pale and sickly in the winter. Even though I feel attracted to yellow, mustard, olive and orange, it doesn’t really make me feel less pale in the winter. It looks harmonious, but not great. Brown, rust, brick and black looks much better on me, since it contains less yellow. But, if we look at the color chart, the opposite of yellow is purple, and since I am very pale and need a bit of warmth to my skin, a reddish purple would be more flattering than a bluish purple.

This explains why I look better in plum, brick and brown liptints, than in pink, coral or red. Pink is too blue for my skintone, and makes me look even more pale. Coral or bright red brings out the yellow in my skin more, while plum, balances out the yellow nicely and makes me look healthy despite being really pale. This also explains why I had to get rid of my golden blonde hair. It looked ok when I was younger, but when I hit menopause, the golden hair and the yellow based skin were magnifying a general “yellowness” that didn’t flatter in any way. It wasn’t until I changed it to a medium brown with strong red undertones, that it gave my pale skin a boost of warmness that I needed.

When it comes to eyemakeup, I tried the orange range that is supposed to be so very great for blue eyes, and I looked like I hadn’t slept for a week. It wasn’t until I switched to rich neutral browns, plums and burgundies that my blue eyes really “popped” – probably because it balanced the sickly looking yellow undertone of the skin. So, don’t pick eyemakeup based on your eyecolor – pick it based on your skintone instead. Balance out your skintone, and your eyes will “pop”!

What this means is orangey warm eyemakeup for blue skintone, purply eyemakeup for yellow skintone and blue/gray makeup for ruddy/pink skin. Try it, and you’ll be surprised how well it works!

Pink skin looks lovely and fresh on a young girl, but the older we get, the more the pinkness turns into ruddiness instead. If we look at the color chart, the opposite of red is green. Therefore, clothing in blues and greens will balance ruddy skin nicely (better to avoid pinks and berries!). People with pink/red skin actually look good in eyemakeup shades of gray/blue/green because it cools down the redness in their skin. Blush color should be icy cool pink with no orange in it, and lip color should also be icy cool in some kind of pink or berry color. Stay away from corals, browns and warm pinks or bright reds.

There is actually one more skintone, olive, which is basically yellowbased skin with a tan. It has a bit of an olive (green) tinge to it. As we already know, the opposite of green is red, so if you have olive skin, you can easily wear bright red, especially if it has a slight bluish undertone. People with olive skin can even get away with wearing bright red lipstick in the daytime without looking overdone! Eyemakeup colors should be brown, gold and olive, since they already have a tan and don’t need to boost their color. Blush can be plum, brown or quite red and still look good.
This should give you a good idea how to look really gorgeous for Christmas!

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Why is it that my son looks great with carrot colored hair that would have made anyone else look like a clown? Why can my daughter wear green and blue clothes without looking washed out? Why do I look terrible with blonde hair?

I finally figured it out – it all has to do with skin tone. Imagine a color wheel with yellow at the bottom, red in the left corner and blue in the right corner. These are the three major skin undertones.

When picking foundation, you have to stay within your skintone. If your skin has pink undertone, choose a warm foundation, if it has blue undertone, choose a cool foundation, and if it has yellow undertone, choose a neutral or yellow based foundation.

Foundation, or tinted facial moisturizer, should never be used to give color to your face. It is only meant to even out your skintone, so you have to use a foundation that has the same natural undertone as your face. If your face needs a color boost, use blush, lip tint, eye shadow, hair color or clothes color to flatter your skin tone.

Once you know what your underlying skintone is, you are ready to play! But first, we must talk a little bit of color theory.

When it comes to flattering colors, it is all about balancing your skin color. It is about finding a color that COMPLEMENTS your natural skintone. So, let’s go back to the color circle. To find what complements and balances yellow, look to the opposite side of the color circle. It falls between red and blue, so basically, shades of purple will balance yellow skin.

To balance pink/ruddy skin, the opposite of red is between yellow and blue, so shades of green leaning towards blue will balance ruddy/pink skin nicely because it cools down the reddish color.

To balance blue undertone, the opposite of blue is between red and yellow. Therefore, shades of orange will balance cool skin.

My son has bluish skin tone, and he looked absolutely fabulous once when he dyed his very blonde hair carrot orange!

My daughter has pinkish skin, and she looks awesome in blues and greens.

I have yellowish skin, and I look terrible in both reds and blues. However, shades of purple, plum and burgundy works really well, as long as the purple isn’t too bluish. I also look good in neutral tones, such as earth tones, brown, olive and black. Any colors that are not too warm or too cool. Murky, muddy colors are basically my best palette. Stay tuned – more info is coming…

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Christmas Surprises

By mati | Filed in Life
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Oh, yeah, it is that time of year again! Time to get out there and look for all kinds of weird and wonderful stuff to surprise people with. Is there anything wrong with that? It is the season of giving, isn’t it?
Yes, it is, but we should still step back and mull over the issue a bit, because it is not as simple as people seem to think.

A friend of mine from Cambodia has a totally different point of view on this. In Cambodia, they never give gifts to young adults. It is considered an insult to give someone a gift because it teaches people to become hypocrites. “How so?” I asked. And she explained how giving gifts and expectation go hand in hand, and that giving gifts creates hypocrites.

Think about it; when you give someone a gift, you naturally expect them to be happy about it and feel grateful towards you, and their happiness makes you, the giver, happy, too. But, what if you give them something that they didn’t like or want? What if they wanted something else, something that you didn’t give? What if they were dissappointed about what you gave? How are they supposed to express that in an honest way, without hurting your feelings?

It isn’t really possible. Imagine your child saying, “Thanks mom, I appreciate the gesture, but I don’t like the gift. Can I please have the receipt so I can exchange it for something more useful?” Hm… Not much Christmas spirit in that comment… But, what if it is the honest truth? Does anyone want to hear the truth?

No, at Christmas, nobody wants to hear that kind of truth – so we all learn to lie… We become lying hypocrites. “Thanks so much, I love it!” we say, and then we stick the gift into the deepest, darkest part of our closets and hope it will disappear into thin air.

This is what we teach our children – don’t be honest – honesty hurts people’s feelings – and after pretending this and that for years to come, we eventually forget how to be real. Why do we do this to our kids? We put them in a very difficult situation – be honest and real, and hurt people’s feelings, or be fake and pretend, and make others happy…

Nobody should HAVE to be fake! How can you know who you are, if everything you do is fake? You smile when you don’t feel like smiling, you say you love something when you don’t, and so on. And, what you learn from this game of pretend is that if you want relationships to be in harmony, you have to be fake. If you are real, not only will you hurt people’s feelings, but nobody will like you, either! So, what does that make your relationships? Perhaps your relationships have become fake, too…

So, I asked my friend what they do in Cambodia to prevent this kind of fakeness, and the solution was so simple – they give money. Nobody is dissappointed about getting money, because when you have money, you can buy yourself whatsoever you want, and then you will be sincerely grateful, and no fakeness is needed to prevent hurt feelings!

Recently, I have experimented with this idea. When my daughter told me “Mom, don’t buy me anything for my birthday! I don’t like surprises, and you don’t know what I like! I want to pick my own things!” I said, “Fine, just go on ebay and put what you like into the shoppingcart, and we’ll look at it together when you are done.”

She found lots of really cool stuff that I wouldn’t have dreamed of buying for her. So, I bought it, and when it arrived, I wrapped it up so she wouldn’t actually see it before her birthday. She looked at the gifts and tried to guess which one that contained what, and she was super excited to open the gifts, knowing that she would get exactly what she wanted. She was truly and honestly happy, and so was I.

It was so simple and easy. No stress, no lack of ideas, no brain racking to try to figure out what to buy for everyone. This is just a different way to deal with the whole issue of gift giving, where we don’t have to force our young ones to become hypocrites and fakes. It also gives the message that it is ok to be real, and that people will still like you, even if you don’t pretend!
Makes sense to me…

This also applies to you – buy your own gifts instead of waiting for others to psychically know what you give you, because then you’ll always get exactly what you want. So, if you want to pamper yourself with Natural Cosmetic Products, my website is a good place to start…

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Transforming negativity

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It is an unfortunate fact that people tend to dump their frustration on others. This is what psychologists call “projection,” and it is the opposite of what the so called “new agers” call “owning your stuff.”

Owning your stuff is something that only happens when people have a somewhat evolved level of consciousness. It means that you can see that your anger or frustration is your own – nobody made you angry – you actually made yourself angry, and therefore, you can’t blame anyone else. The solution is to deal with the anger, instead of dumping it on anyone else.

It takes both awareness and self discipline to “own your stuff.” It is so much easier to scream at someone else and blame them for your misery. Who wants to accept responsibility for being miserable or unhappy? What if someone did something that gives your mind an excuse to scream? What if you think someone deserves some blame?

While blaming others temporarily makes you feel better, it is never a solution. It simply shifts the problem onto someone else, and by shifting the problem, you feel that you are ok, and it is the other person who is full of faults, and not you.

The problem with this kind of attitude is that you will never learn anything from what is happening in your life. The only way to learn is to realize that the problem is actually yours – not anyone elses…

The other problem is that even if YOU “get it,” others may not want to quit their habit of blaming and screaming, and they might selfrighteously continue to blame and scream at you. Then what do you do? Argue back? If you argue, you become just as negative as the people who yelled at you in the first place. So, what is the solution?

There is actually an alternative – you can send the negativity back to the source where it came from, with a dose of creator energy. All you have to say to yourself is, “I don’t accept this, I send it back to the source or sources from whence it came, with creator energy.” This is supposed to be the magic words that will send the negativity back.

Why do we send the negativity back with creator energy? We do this because creator energy has a very high positive vibration that will actually help the person who is suffering from negativity. You can even think of it as “God energy” if you wish.

The reason why you shouldn’t accept anyone else’s negativity is that it can make you sick if you do. It is much better to send it back to where it came from, instead of accepting it and allowing it to affect your body or emotions.

This may sound a bit airy fairy to some, but it does actually work. All you have to do is use your intention to send the negativity back, and almost instantly, you’ll feel it leaving your system.

Try this the next time someone makes you feel sick to your stomach, or horribly sad because they are blaming your for something and making you think that everything is your fault. Just realize that this energy isn’t yours, and simply send it back with creator energy. You’ll find that not only will the negative energy leave you, but the person who sent you the bad vibes will also change as soon as he gets a dose of creator energy from you. Often times, you’ll find that they will spontaneously calm down, or even apologize!

This is very interesting stuff – and don’t take my word for it. Try it and see for yourself! The fact is, there is no reason to carry anyone’s negativity – let them deal with their own stuff and know that it has nothing to do with you! Just keep sending it back…

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Are you happy?

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Happiness is so easy – just BE and happiness is there! So why is it so difficult to find it? Why are so many people miserable in their lives?
It has to do with expectation. We are not taught that just BEING is enough. We have to have things, money, friends who behave like friends, mates that make us happy, and so on. And, on the other side of expectation, there is disappointment and unhappiness…

All these ideas about what has to happen before we can be happy, has one thing in common – it all has to do with things outside ourselves.

My daughter is a good example. One day, we went to Walmart, and she saw this little teddy bear that she HAD to have. It instantly became the love of her life, and she was crying big tears. If she didn’t get the teddy, she would be eternally miserable, and if she got the teddy, she would be so, so happy! Mom, how can you not say yes? Don’t you want me to be happy??? (And, by the way, if you don’t want me to be happy, I hate you, but if you make me happy, I’ll definitely love you…)

I looked at my daughter and said that I would love for her to be happy, but because I know from my own experience that happiness doesn’t come from outside, I also knew that giving her the teddy would only create a very momentary happiness. She couldn’t care less about my menopausal wisdom, so I decided to buy the teddy for her just to show her what I was talking about.

She was so happy at first, hugging her bear, hugging me, smiling from ear to ear, telling me how wrong I was about the bear not making her happy. And the happiness lasted all the way through Walmart, out the door and into the next store…

In the next store, there was a huge box, right inside the door, with beautiful stuffed animals, and there was a dog in that box that was way cuter than her new teddy. She threw the teddy into the shopping basket and started hugging the little dog. Oh, mom, the teddy wasn’t it, THIS is it!!! Please, oh, please! Can we buy this, and take the bear back to Walmart???? I’ll be so happy if I can only get this little dog! I’ll never ask for anything else! PLEASE!

As her evil mom, I pointed out to her that her happiness of getting the teddy lasted for exactly 14 1/2 minutes, but now that she compared the bear to the dog, all her happiness was gone.

Unfortunately, this isn’t just a problem for small children. We all have this issue going through our lives. If only I had a better job, or a bigger house, or a more beautiful wife, or more money, or a husband who paid more attention to me, THEN I’ll be happy!

The problem with this kind of thinking is that it is never here and now, it is always in the future. There is always and IF and a THEN. If I get this, then… The problem is, that if this is a condition for being happy, then happiness will never happen to you. Why? Because happiness can only be in the now, not in the future. The truth is, the future never happens, it is always now!

So, if you can’t be happy, right here, right now, when can you be happy? There is only one way to be happy in the here and now, and that is by realizing that true happiness has to come from within.

Yes, you can also be happy about things that come into your life, but this happiness is only temporary, it is happiness with an outside cause, which can easily change your happiness to unhappiness.

The secret to true happiness is to find a way to be happy with no cause or reason. And, the path to this kind of happiness is very simple – gratefulness. Instead of looking at all the things we don’t have, or all the things that suck in the world, look at all the things you can be grateful for. The sun, the incredible color of the sky, the food on the table, your friends and family, the miracle of life itself…
There are so many things to be grateful for – so how can you possibly be miserable? You just have to change your focus from your perceived lack to the abundance of life and beauty all around.

Even the fear of death is affected by this kind of shift in perception. If you are miserable, you’ll always be fearful of death because on some level you know that you haven’t really lived your life fully yet. To truly live your life, you have to find your inner happiness first. If you are happy, you feel satisfied, and if you are satisfied, then you can look up at the sky, like the old Indian tribes used to do, and say to yourself “It is a good day to die…” No fear, no misery, just a sense that comes from having found your inner bliss. So, stop looking outside yourself for happiness – you won’t find it there…

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Menopausal skincare

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I just read somewhere that the aging proces happens twice as fast after menopause! Bad news! It has to do with a slow down in cell production. The result is that the skin becomes more susceptible to environmental damage, because it doesn’t have the same ability to repair itself as it used to have. This is why most signs of aging has to do with environmental influences.

Younger skin renews itself so quickly that it easily recovers from environmental abuse, but it is a fact that menopausal skin must be protected and pampered if you don’t want it to just shrivel up.

In the medical world, they use extreme measures to deal with this issue. They use acid peels that are strong enough to stop your heart if the acid enters the bloodstream too fast (but of course, they don’t tell you that), or they mechanically grind off 2-3 layers of your skin (with steel brushes) so you can basically grow a new face, or they use lazers to “resurface” your face.

All this nonsense puts your whole body into a state of emergency where your whole life energy goes into growing new skin. But, this is not a good thing! To put the body into a state of artificial emergency basically puts the whole system out of balance! The energy has to come from somewhere, so where was it actually taken from? Are your inner organs going to end up sick because energy was taken from them to make you a new face? Definitely something to consider…

In the body, nothing is just a “local” problem – everything is connected and must be seen as a whole. So, what is the energetic price that you pay to have your face regrown? No doctor is going to tell you the answer to that question, simply because it doesn’t concern them… – so you must make your own decision based on your gut feeling and natural inner wisdom…

The other thing the docs love to give you is retinol creams that increases the cell turnover. It burns, it stings, it makes your skin irritated and inflamed, it makes your skin peel and it makes you more susceptible to sunburn. It also upsets the natural balance, by forcing the skin to make more skincells to get rid of the skin that is damaged from the retinol. What if the increased cell production eventually turns into skin cancer? Skin cancer also has increased cell production… – again, you must carefully make your own decision…

What if the time has come to accept that there is beauty at any age, and that inner beauty is more important than outer beauty? This doesn’t mean that we should just stop taking care of our skin because we are going to get old and wrinkled no matter what. No, there are still things we can do naturally that will make a difference.

Using a gentle natural face scrub is one way to stimulate the skin to make more skin cells without having to upset the whole energetic balance of the body. Another thing we can do is to moisturize with a natural face moisturizerthat contains hyaluronic acid. Hyaluronic acid holds water on the skin and helps increase the water levels in the skin cells. This in itself is enough to decrease the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, since a lot of wrinkles are caused by lack of moisture. And to top it off, we need to use a protective barrier natural face cream for dry skin that prevents the moisture from evaporating.

Using natural cosmetics, the goal isn’t to grow a new face, or to look like you are only twenty for the rest of your life – the goal is to take care of the skin that you already have so you can preserve your natural beauty a little longer. Forget about tight, wrinkle free faces where the skin has been pulled so tight that it can be difficult to even close the eyelids. Looking at cosmetic surgery pictures, that isn’t my idea of young! All it says to me is “desperate!”

Don’t be desperate – just live your life to the fullest, and be young at heart…

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Winter Coats

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I know it isn’t winter, yet, but fall is the best time to buy for winter on ebay. I’m looking to buy myself a down coat, but oh, there are so many decisions to make! Long, medium or short? Down, feathers or polyester?

As far as I know, down is still the best. It is the lightest and the warmest. The higher the percentage of down is, the better the quality and the warmer the coat. If the down percentage is below 75%, it is a lesser quality coat, and unless you live in Florida or Southern California, you’ll suffer when the cold hits.

Then, the question is, how long should I buy it? I already have a short snazzy down jacket that is fine for fall, but as soon as it really gets cold, my butt suffers and my lower back gets stiff from the cold.

I have always wanted a long coat, and luckily, I’m tall enough that I can get away with it. The shorter you are, the more overwhelming a long coat will be. But, now I am becoming indecisive. A long coat is great for walking around in when the temperature dips, but can I easily get into the car with it? Is there a reason why they call 3/4 length coats “car coats?” Maybe anything longer just gets into your way and makes you feel like you are wearing a sleeping bag instead of a coat. It has to be warm, yes, but it must also be practical. So, maybe I’ll settle for a 3/4 length coat…

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What is a skin moisturizer?

By mati | Filed in Skincare
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Dum question, I know, but the term “moisturizer” is often used to describe highly different types of products. Sometimes oils are referred to as “moisturizers” and other times watery serums are referred to as moisturizers. Often times, you’ll find that a moisturizer actually contains both oil and water. So the question is, what is actuallly more moisturizing, oil or water?

The answer is easy – the skin needs both. As we become more mature, we start producing less natural oil on the skin. Since the natural oils work as protection that seals in natural moisture, the natural sealing of moisture will no longer happen. The result is that the natural moisture on the skin will start evaporating, and we end up with dry skin and wrinkles.

However, it isn’t as easy as it sounds at first. If you just add more moisture in the form of water, it will quickly evaporate. And if you add more moisture in the form of oil, nothing will evaporate, but the water levels in the cell tissues won’t increase either, so even though the oil keeps the skin soft, the skin will still be dry underneath (lacking in watery moisture).

Skincare companies have tried to come up with solutions – that is why they often recommend heavy creams for dry skin. But, the truth is, that heavy creams tend to stay on top of the skin and create a barrier, but they don’t increase the water levels either.

This has been a puzzle for me for a long time. I kept thinking that there MUST be a better solution! And then I got a completely new idea – products that you can layer on the skin! Now, this makes much more sense!

First, apply a thin, watery serum, such as the natural face moisturizer, that will seep into the skin cells and increase the water levels, and then, apply a heavy cream, such as the chamomile natural face cream or moisturizing oil on top, to seal in the moisture that you just added and keep the skin soft and protected. This makes so much sense to me, I’m surprised that other companies haven’t done it yet!

So, I have basically created a completely new concept in natural skincare – products that can be layered depending on each individual’s skin needs. Basically, each product has its own purpose, and you just pick the ones that you feel your skin needs each moment. This can vary depending on weather, temperature, seasons and of course, hormonal changes and age.

I also found a great article about skin moisturizers today, so please click if you want to check it out.

Go to Green Beauty Cosmetics to learn more about the benefits of natural cosmetics products that can be layered according to individual skin types

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